只要為你活一天

我的座右銘是：“世上無難事，只怕有心人！”

There are days where I feel the world is against me, but I had to encourage myself that nothing in this world is difficult for one who sets his mind to it can accomplish anything.

Today, 26/05/17 is when I have officially secured my new job. I start in under two weeks which is kinda scary but at the same time thrilling! A part of me feels sad to leave my current job at TrustFord, but nothing lasts forever, life goes on…

But, I’ve finally done it! My future seems secured and I’m heading the right direction. Let’s go!!! 🙂

 

Missing the memories…

Around this time last year I bidded farewell to a friend…actually someone who actually kinda meant more than a friend to me. She probably realised, but just thinking back to thoese memories we had…I miss them.

Do I miss the actual person? Yes of course, but the feeling isn’t the same anymore unfortunately. How time can change someone or something, it’s crazy. A year ago, we blasted through our final exams and the next minute, I’m saying farewell to her 😦 Sometimes I feel…feel like I want to stay in that moment forever if you know what I mean, but I guess we all have to move on…

Great but even greater!

Don’t you ever sometimes question yourself whether if you can do it better? I mean for example you know that you’re clever at studying a certain subject, but do you have that drive to go beyond yourself and study further? Or rather when you’re at the gym and you know full well you can lift a certain weight, but deep down you can push yourself to the next level and lift heavier?

The point of today’s topic is that sometimes in life, we are sat in our comfort zone and we’re not willing to get out of that box we’re fixed on. To a certain extent, some people will not mind staying in their comfort zone, but for individuals like myself I am raring to get out. There is fear behind this, but without exploring the wider opportunities out there, how will I develop even further? I’m a man about progression. Without progression, there is no meaning in life, that’s my motto!

Right now with my job situation, I can easily work through my remaining contract, but I don’t like to settle for less, and I would rather prefer a greater challenge. But, unfortunately life doesn’t always go that way…there’s a long process that’s involved and one of them is perseverance. Keep working hard as you’ll be prepared for what’s gonna happen next in our lives.

Great Expectations = Great Disappointments

Never expect anything from anybody. Be self content. Anticipate everything but expect nothing.

It’s human to feel disappointed now and then. As an optimist I tend to hope for the best in situations. It doesn’t always work out the way I want. Having had my share of disappointments, I’ve become more aware of my expectations and learned how to hold them in check. We become disappointed when our expectations of persons, situations or things are unrealistic and not met.

In a circumstance with an uncertain outcome we naturally create expectations as a way of creating some certainty for ourselves. An expectation is a thought or a belief that is about our expected outcome, not necessarily about what might really happen. We have beliefs about ourselves that can turn into expectations about a desired outcome because they reinforce our beliefs about ourselves. When we are surprised by the outcome we are disappointed or frustrated because they undermine our beliefs.

There are two sides to expectations. We have to manage our own expectations and we have to be aware of others’ expectations of us. Disappointment is a two-way street.

High expectations are at the core for perfectionists who set unrealistically high expectations for themselves.

Managing our expectations is important for a number of reasons, the main one being our own sense of happiness. The less disappointment we face, the happier we are. The second most important reason is that our expectations tend to create demands, requests or orders on other people, which causes stress in relationships. The more we face disappointment, the more unhappy, unmotivated and stressed we become. So instead of curling up into a fetal position and giving up, there is a better solution: becoming aware of and modifying your expectations.

For our own sanity and happiness, managing our expectations is a better choice than continually being disappointed or giving up. Here are eight steps that will help you begin to short circuit your process of creating unrealistic expectations:

1. Become aware of expectations you are creating.
2. Understand the beliefs behind your expectations.
3. What are your needs in the situation? Are there other ways to meet them?
4. Is your expectation a reasonable or a likely outcome?
5. When your expectation turns out to be incorrect, notice and adjust accordingly.
6. When you are disappointed, don’t take it personally.
7. Stay flexible: What other options do you have?
8. Be okay with “what is.”

Our disappointment should be turned on its head: Instead of being disappointed with an outcome, we really should be disappointed in our own unrealistic expectations. We can ask for things but we don’t always get them. When you adjust your expectations to fit reality, you are much less likely to experience disappointment. In time, it will become a rarer occurrence. You don’t have to give up hope. We can still anticipate a good outcome, just be ready to be okay with “what is” and accept it. As the old saying goes: “Don’t count your chickens before they’ve hatched.”

By Bradley Foster