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The Pressure!

We all have dreams we want to chase, but each day that passes seems to be disappearing further and further away into the abyss. I can’t seem to grasp onto it. Sometimes when all hope is lost, I just feel what’s the point of all of this…I mean fighting so hard for what? I keep asking that question continuously, and I don’t have a concrete answer yet…

So what’s with all this pressure and sadness in life then Darren? Let me tell you something, the world we know is sad as it is, and the only difference we can make as individuals is to bring out and share our positive energy with everyone. Unless you’re like me 50/50, then it’s hard to impact everyone’s lives with positivity.

Life itself is a challenge. We all get ups and downs, but when the negative side creeps over you, then it’s hard to fight your way out.

I think I’m pressurising myself too much. But why? I like setting targets for myself and sometimes to a stage where it’s so difficult that I even ask myself why did I even set it that high in the first place! For me, I need that drive in life, that push to get over those mountains. But there are days where the result of setting a high objective leads to sadness and fucks me up emotionally in my head. What I mean is that I want to work for something in life…and I’ve must have reiterated this many times…but I want to work towards my future family.
As silly as it sounds, it is true and although I don’t have a girlfriend at the moment, I want to find her….desperately. Love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it is probably shit haha! I’m 23 years of age, and yes I am still young but the time is ticking. I still even remember saying at the beginning of college that I want to find my other half, and 6 years down the line…it’s been a failure. It’s that pressure at finding MRS RIGHT 😦 I know she’s out there, and she wants someone who can love her dearly and won’t cheat on her…well I’m loyal and once you have my heart, I’m all yours 🙂

Besides my love life, the pressure from family and work itself is also another element. Especially with my parents…even though they might not say it, I feel that uneased tension when the conversation directs to a work related matter. Okay, I understand they want me to do well in life, and they have high expectations too, but that pressure is immense. Asian parents are like that.
I want the best job I can get…well at this point of my career, and yes I should be greatful that I even have a job, but I know what I’m capable of doing and achieving, and finding a job where it meets all my requirements is difficult! It’s not impossible, but a part of me tells me that day will come soon, but timing is an important element which MUST play in my favour, or else it fucks up all together. I need to have confidence in myself!!!

In conclusion, what I’m doing now will contribute towards my future and I must do well now, in order to have a happy life in that future.

常在心頭

又係熟悉嘅音樂，又再次響起，每次我都好專心甘去聽，一路聽一路望住窗外嘅夜晚，好自然咁我又再次想起你，我係度唸究竟當你愛一個人同唔愛佢嘅時候，有咩唔同？究竟咩叫做愛情？

How To Know If A Person Truly Loves You: The Top Six Ways

Oh to be in love. Is there really anything quite like it?

The slow cartwheels that turn over in your stomach every time you think of the other person, the slight hop and a skip in your step, the giddy anticipation at the thought of seeing them again, and how everything in the world around you suddenly just seems…better!

The trouble with love, as the saying goes, is that is can also render us temporarily – but powerfully – blind. At least cognitively speaking. There’s a reason somebody coined the phrase “love is a form of socially acceptable insanity.”

The intensity of biological factors and psychological emotions in the beginnings of a new relationship can weaken our judgment. In short, this happens so that we can see what we want to – and our relationship needs can be filled.

While it’s true that love may be both a feeling and an action, trust me on this: When it comes to letting others know whether or not we truly love them, it’s what we do over what we say that matters.

But how do you know if he REALLY loves you?

At the end of the day, there are some basic things that form the foundation of all healthy and loving relationships. Here are the top 6 ways for how to know if a person truly loves you.

1. They love themself.

A person can’t love someone else unless they love themself first. Self-love is so crucial because itequals self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-respect, and self-confidence.

Self-loving individuals know how to set healthy boundaries in relationships, and rarely if ever end up in codependent situations. They are willing to give to and please others, but not to their own detriment. They are usually good at teaching people how to treat them well, and their assuredness typically brings out the best in those around them.

They know how and when to trust others and if they love you, they will trust you.

2. They like you…just as you are.

For any dinosaurs out there or people who just love syndicated reruns of brilliant sit-coms from the 80s, you might recall the episode of The Cosby Show when Clair Huxtable says to Denise: “I’m very proud of you. Not because I love you, but because I like you.” And Bridget Jones’ Diary of course, where the title line came from.

People who truly love other people like them as well. They experience all of their feelings for them out of choice, not beliefs of being obligated to feel a certain way about them. They respect their choices, even if they wouldn’t make the same for themselves. The best love starts out as like– someone who you would want to be friends with.

Most importantly when a person truly loves you, they love and like the version of you now. All of you. And they can live with the things they don’t particularly like about you. They aren’t gambling on some version of you they are hoping you will change into – or that they will change you into. Bottom line: If someone keeps on needing things about you to change as a condition for them to “love you,” they probably don’t truly love “you” to begin with.

3. They want the best for you.

And they are thrilled when you succeed. When someone truly loves you, they admire you. They are not jealous of your achievements, and they don’t see you as competition. If they do, it suggests they have self-esteem issues. A person who truly loves someone does not feel threatened by that person, who they are, and their accomplishments. Rather, they are inspired and elevated by that person, and vice versa.

4. They fight for your relationship.

The opposite of love isn’t hate – it’s indifference. People who love each other actually want the relationship. They care. They don’t like seeing one or the other person unhappy. And they are willing to talk things out and try to work through disagreements and arguments.

It may not always have an ideal ending. But when you love someone, you are willing to put in the time, energy, and effort to see if you can make things right. Effort involves action, which as I said is the main requirement in conveying true love to someone.

5. They want to share in your world.

When a person truly loves you, they want to get to know and spend time with people who are important to you – like your friends or close family members.

They also want to occasionally share in your interests and passions in life, even if they don’t personally take interest. So they may occasionally go with you to the latest Hugh Grant rom-com or play-off hockey game, instead of insisting you go with your friends.

All of this shows they are interested in knowing all of you, and experiencing what else brings you joy in life together.

6. They can let you go.

When a person truly loves you they know that although they may desire you in their life, they don’t own or possess you. And they don’t depend on you for their sole existence.

Although it may hurt if you one day no longer feel the same way, a truly loving person can respect your choices – even if it’s a choice to leave the relationship. They don’t have to love the outcome, but they will respect your decisions for yourself and your right to make them.

http://www.vixendaily.com/love/nks-therapy-how-to-know-if-a-person-loves-you/2/

Failing

This week has not gone how I’d imagined it 😫 That’s life and it can be sometimes cruel.

I didn’t get the job I wanted and that was due to a reason which was out of my control…well at least I knew I had the technical skills so I’m satisfied with that.  But at the end of the day,  I didn’t get the job and nothing can change it.  Gotta keep my chin up, and keep going forward 🙏 There’ll be other opportunities out there, I’m sure of it!  

Besides securing my future, I’ve had issues with my car 😥 Warning bulb light came on the dashboard, and paint work damage on my side door. Before you judge me, it wasn’t because of wreckless driving but staffs at work who can’t do a proper job with my car 😒 I know this all the time, and yes I’m grateful with the car I got, but I want it to be perfect…attention to detail 👌

My work life is failing me. My car is looking damaged. My love life is failing me. So far it’s going bad, and I just hope this week will fly by. 🌍

愛多一次 痛多一次

有了你

有了你頓覺增加風趣
我每日每天都想見你
那懼風與雨　那懼怕行雷
見少一秒都空虛
有了你頓覺輕鬆寫意
太快樂就跌一交都有趣
心中想與你　變做鳥和魚
置身海闊天空裡

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游來又游去　湖海多美
拋開人生的顧慮

有了你頓覺輕鬆寫意
太快樂就跌一交都有趣
心中想與你　變做鳥和魚
置身海闊天空裡
有了你頓覺輕鬆寫意
太快樂就跌一交都有趣
心中想與你　變做鳥和魚
置身海闊天空裡